I have six beautiful children, ages 2 to 15, all of whom are neurodivergent. This means that their brains work differently than those of neurotypical people. Some of my children have autism, some have ADHD, some have dyslexia, and some have a combination of these.qq
Life with six neurodivergent children is definitely challenging, but it is also incredibly rewarding. I love seeing the world through their unique perspectives. They are all so creative, intelligent, and funny. They challenge me to think outside the box and to be a more patient and understanding person.
Of course, there are also struggles. One of the biggest challenges is managing sensory overload. Many neurodivergent children are hypersensitive to sensory input, such as noise, light, and touch. This can lead to meltdowns, anxiety, and difficulty focusing.
One specific example of this is hair brushing. For many neurodivergent children, hair brushing can be a very unpleasant experience. The feeling of the brush on their scalp, the sound of the bristles, and the tugging on their hair can all be overwhelming.
Over the years, I have learned a few things about how to make hair brushing a less stressful experience for my children. Here are a few tips:
- Use a soft brush. A soft brush is less likely to irritate the scalp.
- Brush gently. Don’t pull or tug on the hair.
- Distract them. Put on their favorite show or song.
- Let them brush their own hair. This gives them a sense of control.
- Use a detangling spray. This can help to loosen knots and make brushing easier.
- Be patient. It may take some time for your child to get used to having their hair brushed.
If your child is still struggling with hair brushing, you may want to talk to their doctor or occupational therapist. They may be able to recommend additional strategies.
In addition to sensory overload, another challenge of raising neurodivergent children is dealing with their different needs. Each of my children has their own unique strengths and weaknesses. Some of them need help with social skills, some need help with academics, and some need help with emotional regulation.
It can be difficult to meet all of their needs, but I do my best. I have learned to be a good advocate for my children. I have also learned to rely on the support of my family, friends, and community.
Despite the challenges, I wouldn’t trade my life with my neurodivergent children for anything. They have taught me so much about love, acceptance, and resilience. They are my greatest teachers and my greatest joy.
Here are some of the joys of raising neurodivergent children:
- They see the world in a unique way.
- They are creative and intelligent.
- They are funny and loving.
- They challenge me to be a better person.
- They make me proud every day.
Here are some of the struggles of raising neurodivergent children:
- Managing sensory overload.
- Dealing with their different needs.
- Advocating for them.
- Finding support.
If you are raising neurodivergent children, please know that you are not alone. There are many other families who are going through the same thing. There is also a lot of support available.
I encourage you to connect with other parents of neurodivergent children. You can also find support groups and organizations that can provide you with information and resources.
Remember, your children are a gift. They are special and unique, and they deserve all the love and support that you can give them.